The main point of personal development is… eeh… well, to develop our selves. Hopefully for the better.
But how do we develop as human beings? And how can we know that we are going in the right direction?
Everyone, who’s in their right mind, can differ right from wrong. But from time to time we need to evaluate our selves.
If you are uncertain if a new behavior of yours is doing you any good, ask yourself the following two questions:
- What are my intentions?
- How do others react?
It is crucial that you are totally honest when you answer these questions. Let’s say you have a goal to quit bragging. What are your intentions for doing so? Is it because you want others to like you better? Is it because you want to be a better person?
How do people react when you change? If they start to interact with you in a more positive way, that would probably tell you a lot. If they start telling you more about them selves that’s a really good sign. Braggers have a tendency to turn conversations towards them selves, making people less unreserved to open up.
There is, of course, no rules without exeptions. If you hang out with a bunch of negative people, you need to change your environment.
How do strangers react to you? Strangers have no idea of what to expect from you, and therefore their reactions will be more honest.
If you have any experience using computer software, you’ll know that the developers constantly work to make it better. Every once in a while you get reminders that a new version is available for download. If they aren’t entirely sure about the changes they’ve made, they will first release a beta version. If the beta version of the software gets good reviews from the users, they will release it as version 2.0.
You can do the exact same thing. If you are uncertain if a change is for the better, release a beta version of yourself. If it’s well received, stick to it. If the reactions are negative, go back and try something else.
Don’t you think it’s time to release, at least a beta version, of You 2.0?
June 29th, 2007 - 8:50 pm
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